HOW?

How do you answer this problem? On Sunday I listened to a sermon about being married. I think that those are very important sermons to hear/give. With divorce so high these days and so many unhappy marriages we need to be talking about marriage. BUT...what about the people who aren't married? I meet with girls who are single and struggle because of the pressures to get married. I don't hear much about what they want in a husband but just that they want to get married. The culture here values marriage over singleness. When I meet ladies one of the first things they tell me is that I need to find a husband and I'll be happy, or that they are going to find me a husband. Even people in our organization tell me it's okay that I am single for now. So what do you say? There are very few Christian guys so yet again for the girls their options are depressing. They don't want to count anyone out so they will give attention to guys who are non-believers because they want to be able to find someone. No one around them is telling them that it's okay to wait to find a good quality husband or that their standards should be that he must be a believer. I told a friend the other day that the guy I marry MUST be a believer and she said "is that a test for him?" I told her know it's a standard. This is such a foreign concept. So how do you help girls feel confident in being single? Or how do you help a girl find that they have a say in the type of guy they marry that they can desire their husband to treat them a certain way? The fear of not getting married is so big and deep it runs their lives. It's not even an issue of sex or temptation of sex..just marriage.